I have always hated that term. Like actually hate it, which is not a word I say often.
When Devin died, people use to tell me that I needed to adjust to my "new" normal and that this, was my "new" normal. I always thought there is NOTHING normal about losing your child. Often people don't know what to say, they try to be comforting and supportive. But I could never understand why this was something people thought would be helpful.
A few months later, when I went through a horrible divorce and found out truths I wish I never knew, people told me to adjust to my "new" normal. There was nothing normal about that either. My entire life had fallen apart, I was devastated. My family went from six people to four in a blink of an eye. Everything I knew changed. How could people say to adjust to that and make it all normal?
What is normal? Normal means conforming to a standard; usual, typical or expected. Why would you ever want to adjust to that? Don't accept average. Your life isn't someone else's standard, it's whatever you want it to be. Things will happen in your life, good and bad, joyful and heartbreaking. You will endure setbacks and amazing moments. Make your life exactly what you want it to be. Don't settle for any type of normal, and certainly don't adjust to a "new" normal. It's all part of your journey, your story. Own it.